66. Happy Mother's Day
Dec 31, 2023You are going through life and all is well. Instantly, it all changed and you were on your knees, feeling lost with no idea how life goes on without your loved one.
Hi, I am Janet Jones, founder of Happiness Millionaire. Welcome to my conversations with my rock on the beach, Sylvia-Rose. She helps me navigate the next chapter of my life, the chapter without my 22-year-old son, Murray. Join these musings about life, grief, and loss with my rock, Sylvia-Rose. To learn why she is called Sylvia-Rose and how and why we met, I invite you to read my first blog - 'If Rocks Could Talk, Meet Sylvia-Rose'. You could also register to have these blogs delivered to your email inbox so you never miss them. Click the FOLLOW SYLVIA-ROSE button.
19th March 2023
SR - Good Morning. You caught me just before I went under! How are you? Happy Mother’s Day.
Jan - Thank You. Glad I got here in time. You know it is a day of duality for me and for all mothers who have lost children. So, you know me, I reflected.
SR - Of course, you did. I am glad you came to share with me.
Jan - Always. You see, a couple of days ago, I said to my friend Jane, who lost her son Mathew 16 years ago, I was going to see it as just another day and get busy. It was hearing myself say that, that caused me to reflect. I realised, Mother’s Day, my current and future ones, isn’t about feeling low and wishing things were different. I have two other beautiful children who have a mother and they want to share their love and gratitude with me. With their sense of joy, not sadness, and worry about how I might be getting on. I want to embrace their Love for me and the love I KNOW Murray had for me. So that is what I will do. With an open heart to love and the infinite joy of being gifted the opportunity to be a mother. The greatest gift of life.
SR - I love how you somehow manage to reach these places of understanding and acceptance.
Jan - It has taken me a few years to finally get to this and it doesn’t mean it can’t change in a heartbeat. I sound very positive and life-affirming and I am but at the core, this is built on a broken heart. You could liken it to the earth being built on a ball of fire. It erupts every now and then.
SR - Everything changes and nothing is a given in life. For now, in this moment, you are welcoming life’s joys and that is a beautiful place to be. Enjoy it.
Jan - Thank You. I am now about to meet friends for a big celebratory Mother’s Day breakfast.
SR - Good for You!
Jan - I will eat it with gratitude of the three people who came through me, I will eat it with gratitude for Murray being with me for 22 years, and for Iona and Lewis sending me their love. I will also be sending love to all Mothers around the world, past and present, who have had to live their lives enduring the loss of a child.
SR - Great idea. Love flows. It is silent and is felt everywhere.
Jan - I believe that to be true too. Bye, SR. I will be back.
SR - I look forward to it. Great to see you are busy and things are happening. Have a fab day.
Jan - I will. Thank you