38. You don't get over the loss, you transform
Dec 19, 2023
You are going through life and all is well. Instantly, it all changed and you were on your knees, feeling lost with no idea how life goes on without your loved one.
Hi, I am Janet Jones, founder of Happiness Millionaire. I have recently started talking to a rock! This helps me navigate the next chapter of my life, the chapter without my 22-year-old son, Murray. Join me with my musings about life, grief, and loss with my rock, Sylvia-Rose. To learn why she is called Sylvia-Rose and how and why we met, I invite you to read my first blog - 'If Rocks Could Talk, Meet Sylvia-Rose'. You could also register to have these blogs delivered to your email inbox so you never miss them. Click the FOLLOW SYLVIA-ROSE button.
So many times people talk about getting over loss. Chatting with Sylvia-Rose helps explain what is happening - 17th of Feb, 2022
SR - Good morning, how are you? I haven’t seen you in ages.
Jan - I know. Sorry. I have been away and resting my feet. They became sore again after attempting to walk from Halifax to Edinburgh in 2020, for Murray’s first anniversary.
SR - It is best you take care of yourself. It was lovely meeting your sister last week.
Jan - She loves meeting you too. She thought you were bigger!
SR - I am like you, small on the outside and big inside 
You do know the tide is coming in.
You do know the tide is coming in.Jan - I do. I don’t have long. We are also between Storm Dudley and Storm Eunice! I will make this quick. I wanted to report back from yesterday’s full moon.
SR - Great. How did you do this lunar month?
Jan - It was great. Nothing took me down. Yes, there was sadness. I accept that as part of this journey but on the whole, it has been an amazing month of opportunity, growth, new friends, and a deeper connection to my ‘self’.
SR - That is an amazing transformation.
Jan - Transformation is exactly what it is. I am feeling a renewed sense. Like someone inside is emerging. I both recognise her and I don’t, but I like her and I respect her. Since the last full moon, I have maintained morning and night meditations, even while I was away. I have focused my mind on the attraction of abundance rather than lack and fear. I have focused on joy and love instead of pain and grief. I also recognise they are all there all the time and are one. All I need to do is respect both and work with one of them.
SR - That is such an amazing enlightenment.
Jan - It is. Sylvia-Rose, I am going to have to go. I feel the storm coming and the sea has just started to get a little more frisky!! 
SR - I sense it too. You get back and have a wonderful day. Keep spreading the love and abundance.
Jan - If you look at the word abundance it is ‘abun - DANCE’!!!
SR - Wonderful. You better get dancing back pretty quickly!!
Jan - I am on my way. See you when Storm Eunice has passed Who has the job of naming them!? I want their job!! Ooh! That wave was close!!
Who has the job of naming them!? I want their job!! Ooh! That wave was close!!SR - Go Go!!!! See you soon. Xx
NEXT CONVERSATION - When to stop going into the black pit of grief - HERE
